Give Time To Our Family

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally. That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked.

My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news. “I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,” I responded. “Just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, “she said, as she got into the car. “They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” I agreed.

“How was your dinner date?” asked my wife when I got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”

 

I found this story on http://academictips.org/blogs/give-time-to-our-family/

I hope you enjoy it and your family,

Crystalline

Two Choices… Which One Will You Pick?

 We Have Two Choices

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’ I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested. “Yes it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.” I reflected on what Jerry said.

Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?” I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.

“The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live. “Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry continued,

“The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, he’s a dead man. ” I knew I needed to take action.” “What did you do?” I asked. “Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. yes,’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘Bullets!’ Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.

Attitude, after all, is everything.

The Future

~ The only way to predict the future is to have power to shape the future. ~Eric Hoffer

: Be involved, get excited, do something so that your future is worth living.

~ We should all be concerned about the future because we will have to spend the rest of our lives there.  ~Charles F. Kettering

: Just as I stated previously, do something that makes life living for and something that you can look forward to in the future!

~ I never think of the future – it comes soon enough.  ~Albert Einstein

: Don’t always plan for things in advance, my spontaneous late night trips to Braum’s, Taco Bell, and Sonic are the best times of the day! Much is learned passed 11:00pm.

~ The past can’t see you, but the future is listening.  ~Terri Guillemet

: Even though you shouldn’t be looking forward to the future all the time, be conscious of the decisions and choices you make because if they are destructive enough, your future will be getting a swirly from the toilet.

Have fun, be spontaneous, live life,

Crystalline

Procrastination

~ Procrastination is the art of keeping up with yesterday.  ~Don Marquis

: There will always be a yesterday to think back to, but don’t think back just because you need to remember what you were supposed to do.

~ The sooner I fall behind, the more time I have to catch up.  ~Author Unknown

: Catching up with sleep is hard enough. Don’t make your life complicated!

~ It is an undoubted truth, that the less one has to do, the less time one finds to do it in.  ~Earl of Chesterfield

: This is exactly true! If you find you have something small to do, you always seem to wait until literally the very last minute.

~ The best way to get something done is to begin.  ~Author Unknown

: They only way you will actually do something is if you start it and it bugs you because if isn’t finished. Your mom always did tell you to finish what you started!!

~ I do my work at the same time each day – the last minute.  ~Author Unknown

: This is a great time during the day to do stuff….like SLEEP! Get things done early.

~ Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week.  ~Spanish Proverb

: You always say that you will do it tomorrow. Well, depending on how many ‘things’ you are doing ‘tomorrow’, your tomorrow could be crazy!

 

Now go do your homework,

Crystalline

What Do You Make?

From A School Principal’s speech at a  graduation..

He said  “Doctor wants his child to become a doctor.

Engineer wants his child to become engineer.

Businessman wants his ward to become CEO.

BUT a teacher also wants his child to become one of them.

Nobody wants to become a teacher BY CHOICE”The dinner guests were sitting around the table discussing life.

One man, a CEO, decided to explain the problem with education. He argued,

“What’s a kid going to learn from someone who decided his best option in life was to become a teacher?”

 

To stress his point he said to another guest;

“You’re a teacher, Bonnie.  Be honest. What do you make?”

 

Teacher Bonnie, who had a reputation for honesty and frankness replied,

“You want to know what I make?

(She paused for a second, then began…)

 

“Well, I make kids work harder than they ever thought they could.

 

make a C+ feel like the Congressional Medal of Honor winner.

 

make kids sit through 40 minutes of class time when their parents can’t

make them sit for 5 min. without an I Pod, Game Cube or movie rental.

 

You want to know what I make?

(She paused again and looked at each and every person at the table)

 

make kids wonder.

 

make them question.

 

make them apologize and mean it.

 

make them have respect and take responsibility for their actions.

 

I teach them how to write and then I make them write.

Keyboarding isn’t everything.

 

make them read, read, read.

 

make them show all their work in math.

They use their God given brain, not the man-made calculator.

 

make my students from other countries learn everything they need

to know about English while preserving their unique cultural identity.

 

make my classroom a place where all my students feel safe.

 

Finally, I make them understand that if they use the gifts they

were given, work hard, and follow their hearts, they can succeed in life

 

( Bonnie paused one last time and then continued.)

 

Then, when people try to judge me by what I make, with me knowing money isn’t everything, I can hold my head up high and pay no attention because they are ignorant. You want to know what I make?

 

MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN ALL YOUR LIVES, EDUCATING KIDS AND PREPARING THEM TO BECOME CEO’s, AND DOCTORS AND ENGINEERS.

 

What do you make Mr. CEO?

 

His jaw dropped; he went silent.

 

Thank you all for wanting to become a teacher! You will make a difference!!

Sportsmanship… A Lesson Everyone Should Learn

~ I think sportsmanship is knowing that it is a game, that we are only as a good as our opponents, and whether you win or lose, to always give 100 percent. ~Sue Wicks

: This goes for players, coaches, spectators, student sections, and everyone else!

~ One man practicing sportsmanship is far better than a hundred teaching it. ~Knute Rockne

: This is the best sportsmanship quote of all. Lead by example!

~ I would advise all youths aspiring to athletic fame or a professional career to practice clean living, fair play and good sportsmanship. ~Major Taylor

: Even if you aren’t a youth aspiring athletic fame or a professional career you should still practice these qualities.

~ Sportsmanship and easygoing methods are all right, but it is the prospect of a hot fight that brings out the crowds. ~John McGraw

: Nobody wants to fight, enough said.

If you want to read a great story on sportsmanship and kindness visit http://sports.espn.go.com/ncaa/columns/story?columnist=hays_graham&id=3372631 (p.s. this is where I found the picture.)

 

Be Good Sports,

Crystalline

Weekends

~ Weekends don’t count unless you spend them doing something completely pointless.  ~Bill Watterson

: This is the best definition of weekends! Unfortunatley, the weekends usually consist of everybody trying to catch up with all their chores and homework and everything else on that lovely to do list.

~ Weekends are a bit like rainbows; they look good from a distance but disappear when you get up close to them.  ~John Shirley

: Rainbows are pretty! I’m not really sure what to put here, this one it kind of self-explainatory. Just take timg to apprecitate the little things in life.

~ Weekends don’t pay as well as weekdays but at least there’s football.  ~S.A. Sachs

: Football is definitely in the universal survival guide…at least for most people. There are some people that don’t appreciate it like everyone else, but it’s still there. Go out and cheer for your team!

~ Mondays – God’s way of saying you should have behaved better over the weekend!

: Mondays, Mondays, Mondays….can’t you just skip for once? It would be greatly welcomed by many people! Maybe one day Mondays will become much loved instead of hated!

 

Enjoy Yourself,

Crystalline

Autumn

~ Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower.  ~Albert Camus

: Whether you like spring or fall, remember to take some time to watch all the changes of it. Sometimes Mother Nature may just teach you a lesson you needed!

~ Winter is an etching, spring a watercolor, summer an oil painting and autumn a mosaic of them all.  ~Stanley Horowitz

: Even if you haven’t taken an art class and have the slightest idea or what an etching or oil painting looks like, you are still human enough to appreciate the world at it’s finest.

~ “Come little leaves” said the Wind one day. “Come to the meadows with me and play. Put on your dresses of red and gold; for summer is past, and the days grow cold.” ~George Cooper

: Time won’t stop or take the time to stand still for you to appreciate the moment, so get out and appreciate life for all it’s worth.

: Just a little side note: This is the saying on the picture to the right.

~ Everyone must take time to sit and watch the leaves turn.  ~Elizabeth Lawrence

: Yes, I did just tell you that time won’t stop; but that doesn’t mean you can’t. When you’re having a really crazy day and you think that nothing you do is worth your time and that the ‘to-do’ list you wrote has nothing crossed off yet, go on a walk to a park and sit on a bench. God created the Nature scene just so we can do this. God may be thinking “Why did I create this lovely park close to her home, she never notices it, am I doing something wrong?” The answer is no. He is just like you in thinking the His creation has gone unnoticed to the population of Earth when, in all reality, people just don’t stop to say “Hey, this was definitely worth His time to create. Thanks!”

Kindness Spreads. Patience is Learned.

Crystalline

Hugs

~ A hug is like a boomerang – you get it back right away.  ~Bil Keane, “Family Circus”

: Even though I’ve technically never thrown a boomerang, I do know it always comes back to you. Why not treat yourself to a hug by giving one first?

~ You can’t wrap love in a box, but you can wrap a person in a hug.  ~Author Unknown

: This, to me, seems pretty self-explainatory!

~ I will not play at tug o’ war
I’d rather play at hug o’ war,
Where everyone hugs
Instead of tugs….
~Shel Silverstein

: Great author on this little saying, but the saying also has a lot of meaning in it. It’s not just telling you not to play tug o’ war, but to make friends and peace rather than enemies and war.

~ A hug is like a bandage to a hurting wound.  ~Author Unknown

: Someone may be hurting on the inside but you would never know. Giving them a hug tells them that it is all going to be okay and that they are loved!

Go give a hug,

Crystalline